Couple days ago I did a post regarding an award I was given,
I had to list 7 randoms about myself and have caught HEAT from a couple people about one of the things I've said and apparently have lost a follower or 2 because of it?
So here's what I said...
(6) I secretly look forward to the day my kids are grown so I can have more ME time and MORE time for ROMANCE♥ with the hubby! Peace and Quiet would be DIVINE!
And even though I live in America where I have the FREEDOM OF SPEECH, I shouldn't say things like this... must make me look like a BAD mom!
So let me explain how I took what I wrote here...
From time to time, the thought pops into my head, "what will life be like when the kids are grown"? Some peace and quiet, no fighting, house won't have toys thrown all over...
you get what I'm saying right?
MANY MOMS have ROUGH days with their kids and just wish for some CALGON TO TAKE YOU AWAY!
I NEVER said that I think of this DAILY, nor do I WISH On it either.
I DO love my boys, they are my life!
They have CHANGED my life for the BETTER and those who really know me, should be able to see this, if NOT they should open their EYES!
I hardly get to spend any time with my husband, he has sucky work hours.
I have always pretty much been home with my kids except for being in school or working part time. Sometimes I just get very overwhelmed... does that make me a BAD person? A BAD mom?
I am NOT the most patient mother in the world, so sue me!
However, I take good care of them, provide for them the best that I can.
I would give the shirt off my back for them.
It HURTS ME that people would label me as a bad person, or a bad mom for the comment I made.
I DO NOT sugar coat things here on my blog,
I DO NOT pretend that my life is all frills and sugar coated...
I TRY HARD to KEEP IT REAL!
Life sucks really bad at times and I will ADMIT That!
If you don't like what I say, then you are WELCOME to not READ my blog!
Easy enough!
For those who HAVE NOT judged me,
thank you and I love you-- apparently you UNDERSTAND me!!
Noelle ♥
16 comments:
Hi Noelle,
I knew exactly what you meant. You are human like the rest of us and at times young moms can be overwhelmed with all that has to be done. The time will be here sooner then you know when the kids will be grown and life will change in another direction.
I hope you get to enjoy a "Calgon, take me away" time soon. We all need it and you certainly deserve it.
Best wishes in all that you do as a mom. Blessings always,
Hugs, Celestina Marie
Well I didn't even see the post you're talking about! I'm so off my usual routine. You're free to be you, sweetie! Don't let anyone get you down! ♥
Your a GREAT mom and devote your life to spending special times with them. Every wife and mom thinks about the life of growing old and spending time learning what you and you hubby will be like together. As a mom of three and then six grands I dreamed of the days my hubby and I could share time..pick OUR places to eat and all those things. Brush it off girl your great!
I can't believe anyone would interpret what you said in a negative way. I think we all have moments like that. And it's not like you said you regret having kids or wish you didn't have them. You just were saying that a little more me time or time with DH would be nice.
Why do some people always look on the negative side of things?!! Ugh! You're a normal mom, just like I am and I remember thinking to myself "it will be so nice when the boys are grown and gone so that I can have my own life back"...it certainly didn't mean I didn't love them or wanted them there, it just meant I wanted some time to myself! lol Just ignore those people who took what you said wrong. Unfortunately there will always be some who have to nit pick everything we say. Love ya. xoxox
Oh Really?? Someone actually took such Offense??? WOW!
I too wonder how life will be when the littlies have flown the coup.
I too am Mum and Dad very often as Hubby is MIA with work all the Time!!
And I still after 20 years want to be with and have time with my Man!
Does'nt mean I love My Babies anyless.
Hi Noelle~
"WOW" that is ridiculous... It never even crossed my mind for a second.. that what you were saying was bad. Obviously, because I can agree to a point. Days like today... I REALLY WANT TO RUN AWAY, I even ask myself, AM I cut out to be a mom? Or I tell myself I am a bad mom, or I secretly shed tears in my mind because I am so exhausted and frustrated. I think I am nuts to want a 4th. However, ALL kids will drive you crazy... U R with the all day! YES' its a blessing but how much fighting and messed can one mom take? You love them MORE THEN ANYTHING... (that is what I always tell my kids, do you know how much I love you? their reply is always.. "MORE THEN ANYTHING" they know.) Anyway, it doesn't mean that we don't want them around. ARGHHH, who ever wrote or said something to you, either isn't a parent full time, or a parent at all. NUFF SAID. hugs, luvs, no judging here, JENN
"them" and "messes" typos...
Don't worry , be happy,have a donut!lol... Who cares who said something negative about you. I'm sure they are not perfect.....nobody is! Not a single soul that I know including myself. There is nothing wrong with what you said....kids or not,we all get overwhelmed with what's on our plate dail. You need to vent then I say vent! Who made them judge and jury anyway. If they are not following you anymore ....good .....you don't need followers with superior attitudes. Poo Poo to them ...they can buzz off. lol
Hugs, Sue
You said it, girl!!!
You're a wonderful mom!!!!!
Who cares about what other people think or say- they can always just move on to another blog!!!
Love and hugs,
Jenn~
I'm still here! I think the people who got their panties in a wad probably should go somewhere with less reality and more fluff. Girl, you a REAL with us and that's why I love your blog!
Honey you have to learn, you will never pleae everyone and living entirely for your kids will just make you miserable when they are grown and gone! There is balance in everything! Hugs Anne
Go on with your bad self---I love the way you are because I am the same way. I feel you and I feel the desire for peace and quiet. I think we would be great friends - if only we lived closer....you and I have the same personalitites...
sending hugs and never ever stop being you...
xo
tina
SHAME ON THEM!!!...First of all I learned a LONG TIME ago, that husband should come before kids, for the very simple and logical reason, that...it was the 2 of you first, and it MUST be the 2 of you once they are grown....when a parent puts the kids first always, they basically push the other parent out of the circle a bit, and their conversations etc revolve around the lives of the children more than anything else. Why do you think there are so many divorces or separations after the nest is empty??? Because they have nothing to say to each other, they've lost themselves. You were a PERSON, a WOMAN before you were a MOTHER, and you must be able to be a PERSON and a WOMAN after being a MOTHER.
If people called you on that statement, they are UBER freaky parents, and make me wonder about their sanity. If they stopped following you, trust me it is NO LOSS.
These are the same people who ONLY use time-outs, think only children don't grow up spoiled and probably only have family baby sit. I feel sorry for all of their children. I have observed more families and studied parental, child, adolescent and educational psychology and sociology of marriage and the family. The observations I have made over the years has taught me as much as those classes if not more. I am also the MOM to 2 special needs kids (now 23 and 24) and have several friends and acquaintances with special needs and "NORMAL" KIDS. you are fine, AND IF YOU DIDN'T FORWARD TO THOSE DAYS, I'D WONDER ABOUT YOUR SANITY. besides, isn't that what becoming a grandparent is for, bringing it back around...trust me..your time will still be scheduled and have demands made on it, but you will have a CHOICE in what you say yes to and no to, unlike when it is your kids, by the time they are in high school basically you've taught them everything they are going to learn from you that matters the most. it is at that time, that you must start letting them try out their wings etc.
If you love something, set it free, if it comes back, it loves you too, if it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be...
you set your kids free at some point, and trust me, they all come back, except for the few, and there is usually a valid reason for not. But that isn't you.
the followers who left, they probably won't be back, and if they do it will be cause they are curious as to what other people are posting. and...you know what, they can still follow your blog without being a follower. removing themselves is more a show of "make believe power" more than anything, and you are giving them what they want, a reaction. don't do it. You are fine.
Susan
Hey Noelle,
Honey, you didn't say anything wrong in that post, I didn't even think twice about anything you said in that post. I don't get what others may have seen wrong with it. Oh well, Like some have already said here...we all know what you were sayin' You just keep being yourself...we think you are a great mom! There's nothing wrong with wanting some time to yourself....Believe me, my kids are older now, 19 and 13, but I still have the "Calgon take me away moments." LOL! I think every woman needs some quiet time, to do the things she enjoys doing, there is nothing wrong with that. Like I said, you are a great mom!
Hope you have a great week friend!
Big Hugs,
Queenie
Oh Noelle, I am so bummed you got flack for this comment. We ALL have days like that which doesn't mean we don't love our kids. You know in your heart you are a fantastic mom! Please don't let whoever get you down.
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